WHY YOU NEED TO MAKE A GOOD IMPRESSION ON A FIRST DATE.

 

Ever had a date? Lost in your wardrobe as a lady,  searching for the perfect dress to match his taste even if it the first time meeting with him. There is need to create a good impression to leave a lasting impression in his heart. On the other hand, he rehearses repeatedly trying to find some perfect words that please her heart, some kind words for the women.

‘How do I say these words?’

‘What would she think of me?’`

‘Will my value and ego be protected?’

‘Should I just cancel the date!...’

He feels disappointed, probably not the right time, probably not prepared to meet her yet. ‘I’ll cancel the date...’ he concludes.

Well, I have been there, I mean there, lost in those thoughts, I needed to find out, what goes on behind the scene before a date?

You have also asked these questions that are one reason this post has popped up on your screen. Now we are here, let us get into business. I am glad we all could relate, so I do not feel alone sharing my thoughts and search results with you.

As a young man, have you taken that bold and courageous step to stop that beautiful woman, the date may not be one that would kick start a relationship, whatever the purpose of meeting is, there is need to have the right words and composure to create a good impression.

As you go on, you will learn a lot, and next time you plan a date, you will not have an afterthought of “I shouldn’t have made this decision, I should just cancel the date’.. not yet, let us have this conversation with the men, then we go on to have a conversation with the women.

A woman loves three things in a man; she loves to see these things express themselves through you while they are engaged in a conversation. What are these three things?

1. Courage

2. Has a sense of humor

3. Can keep a conversation

COURAGE

 One thing a woman cannot resist in a man is courage. She would not feel impressed if he cannot express himself, feels intimated to talk to the waiter, stutters not because he stammers. Finds it difficult to look to her face talk. This gestures, leaves the woman in thoughts that comes a conclusion that, ‘he is not a man’. One trait of a man is courage.  Do not mistake courage for ego..there are two different terms., and there mean two different things.

There should be a feel of command and authority in your voice. Ready to take the lead, women are good followers, but when there is bad leadership, they tend to override themselves to the leadership front and lead the whole game to a ditch. It is better to cancel the date, if you are truly not prepared to take courage.

SENSE OF HUMOR 

Sense of humor is simply being the real you in front of a woman. You do not need to watch comedy videos repeatedly to display before her, you will end up being as stupid as the word itself.

It boring and annoying to become a comedian just to please a woman, she is really sensitive, she knows what is real, and can tell what has been rehearsed to put up a ‘good’ show.

Being funny is good, but don’t add effects on it, if you cannot crack joke, then say beautiful words to make her smile, and mean those words, don’t lie to her.

KEEPING A CONVERSATION

  It amazing how you find women talk for hours not minding, in as much as there is a listening ear. Dear young man, you would not  want to listen to stories outside your interest or stories that have nothing really to learn from. 

You need to learn the act of keeping a conversation. Learn to control what should be said; else you will fall into the trap of losing interest in the conversation.

Secondly, you wouldn’t want to spend hours just staring at yourselves with nothing to talk about. There is really a lot to talk about. Love,life, fashion, celebrities, trend, investments plans, business and many other things.

Let us give some attention to the women. Once you have a scheduled date with him, all that you should think is not just your wardrobe. Yes, looking good is a good goal, but after the ‘yes’ is looking good all you have to offer?

What more can I do as a woman when going on a date with him?

I have 3 things also, you could engage in whenever you say yes to a date. A date with him is not an opportunity to have some free food, there is more you can give. Here are three (3) things you can add to your plans to make your date a memorable one.

*Educative talk*

*Share a good experience*

*Talk about his plans*

EDUCATIVE TALK

A lot women love to talk, in fact they have words like a river with no end, but they are as empty as shadows, no value, no content, nothing runs through her head aside, the next good shoe, the next trending fashion, the next good wig, and that is all that makes a woman. so engaging in educative talk in whatever area, becomes a very boring and uninteresting things to be seen in their to-do-list. Become valuable, build content and have something better to offer to people that come around your way. Let it become a date to remember. this is a better impression than ‘looking good’

SHARE A GOOD EXPERIENCE

Rather than telling the story on how you visited a friend with no make-up, share an experience he could learn from, there is much more value in that. 

TALK ABOUT HIS PLANS

Learn to be interested in his life, not his money. At least show that your heart of empathy is golden, not dead, not destroyed with selfish interest. He does not have to be a potential spouse, even being a friend is enough reason to care about his plans.